Today’s Dare: “What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Can you run an errand? Give a back rub or foot massage? Is there housework you could help with? Choose a gesture that says, “I cherish you” and do it with a smile.” (The Love Dare, 54.)
Good morning. What a wonderful evening I had! I hope you did, too! After I did my evening update, I helped my son with an issue and when he went to his room(He’s 17 and doesn’t go to bed early anymore!), I told my honey I had a special surprise for him. He looked pretty happy and asked what it was. When I got the cannolis out, his face was priceless. Let me tell you, I have been dieting a lot lately so this was soooo delicious. We sat there in the dimly-lit room, enjoying a moment alone–together–in mostly silence. We talked a bit. We discussed business, and money after, but the mood was set in a pleasant way–when we normally discuss this junk, it is unpleasant and we fight. This just proves my theory–you get what you give. This week has been the most non-stressful week I have had in a long time. I am not saying I haven’t had moments–I have had a few–but the difference is my reaction. When I lost my cool, I apologized. Other times, I remembered my job as a dare-taker and I thought out my reaction ahead of time. my answer to the thought processes was usually, “I don’t want to ruin this mood I am setting with us.”. I I would settle my anxiety, thinking about how things are changing. It really is working.
The book compares relationships with cars. It states that is today’s society, people are more willing to buy new cars (replace their spouse) than work on getting the repairs fixed (Correct issues they have with their spouse). It had great points. It stated, “When you mistreat your mate, you are also mistreating yourself.” and because your lives are woven, the effects on him/her affect you. You are as one. You get what you give.
Last night, my honey was telling me he had some new pains. I think his need I will meet will be a back massage. I never give these freely–He asks for them and I give them begrudgingly. I think if I volunteer myself to give him one, without complaining, he will really notice a huge change.
I have business to do today, but I will be back for my evening update later. I wish each of you a good day filled with love. Go give freely and reap the benefits.
Oh my gosh. What a day. That was rude, I am sorry–Good evening. Thank you for returning to read this! How are you?
Had I known that when I left Bread Co this morning, my entire day would resemble the inside of a johnny-on-the-spot, I would have stayed inside the cozy safe world that is Bread Co. I can’t even go into the craziness of today…Lets just say it involves a 15-year old credit card, a frozen bank account, a business order, and the rest of my sanity. I just got home and sat down.
I have to say my honey is amazing. He never waivers and he always comes through–no matter how little he has to give, he always gives–and never even thinks twice about it. I spent my whole day driving a gazillion miles ( I swear I put 150 miles minimum on my car today), trying to straighten all of this junk out. My honey jumped in at the end of the day with all of my answers. ALL of them. Not only did he have the answers–but he had hugs and groceries, too. WOW. All my meanness, all my anger, and all my frustrations toward him turned into a broken heart inside me. I had a Grinch moment–my heart grew three sizes today. Looking back, my heart breaks each time. I saw how much he helped and cared and loved, no matter how bad the situation was. Unconditional Love. I think back to my bad moments to him, and I am heart-broken that I acted in those ways. I want to do something special for him, but I can’t afford to right now. IO Him. HUGE.
Tonight, I am going to give him a back massage since he has been hurting for 2 days with a badly pinched nerve. I don’t have an update yet for the actual dare, due to the chaotic day and late bedtime for my daughter. I will be back in the morning to start the new dare and update his reaction. Let me add that when we finally got home and cooked and ate our $6 huge thin crust Sams Club Pizza, I thanked him and gave him a huge hug. It doesn’t even compare to anything he did today.
I have always been the independent type. I never asked for help. EVER. It is funny how lately I am being put in so many situations that I need help from my honey with. God is letting me know I can’t do it all. Alone. Perfect. I’ve really been humbled a lot in the past 3 months. a lot.
Goodnight! Sweet dreams! See you in the a.m.!!